Recently, on a lake trip with my family, I experienced an uncommon emotion for me: peace. Typically on our family lake trips, I’m stressed by wanting to ensure everyone is safe and having a good time. So why was this trip different? Because of what...
For many of us, nothing creates more angst than hearing our wives say, “How do you feel about this?” If that describes you, let me say of course it does. As guys, most of us were led to believe that emotions are not our friends. Many...
We’ve all been there. You say something that does not land well with your wife. You didn’t mean to hurt her feelings or make her angry, but you did all the same. Often in these situations, we can tend to defend ourselves with lines like,...
If you are wondering how to save money in marriage, my wife has you covered. Family legend has it that she was already fiscally responsible at age 5. For her birthday, her grandmother gave her $20 in dollar bills. Nancie’s mom surprised her by using...
Criticism in marriage is never a good thing, and it's my biggest regret as I reflect on my first few years of marriage. Early on, I had heard repeatedly that communication is the key to a successful marriage. So, I needed to communicate the things...
Knowing how to make your wife feel loved and appreciated can feel like a massive and complicated task. However, I’ve worked with married couples for a long time, and I believe more than ever that marriage is made up of the tiny things. It’s not...
In case you aren’t familiar, The Amazing Race is a worldwide competition packed with mental and physical challenges in diverse cultures. It is also a ride of emotions, and couples must work together to be successful. Nancie and I find ourselves rooting for some couples...
Confirmation bias is a big deal in relationships, but especially in marriage. I will spare you the more clinical definition of confirmation bias. Simply put, confirmation bias means you find what you are looking for. This happens in marriage when we assign negative feelings to...
As I’ve worked with married couples over the past few decades, some consistent issues couples face just kept popping up. And no matter what I did, I just couldn’t figure them out—until a few years ago. Mystery 1: Why do some married people respond to marriage...
Currently, what is that thing in your life that occasionally robs you of your peace and patience? For me, it’s the aftereffects of traveling for work. Depending on the trip, the impact can range from making me less energetic all the way to depressed. This...